Sunday, January 10, 2010
Break- Up?! Try Again... With Friendship.
It started out with "friends lang kami," and ended up with "friends na lang kami." So, can ex's really be friends after the break-up? Well, I say, it depends upon the status. The status that I'm talking about is the process and the way how the couples decided to end up the relationship. At some point, the main reason is also considerable why the bond and feelings they've shared for some time must be ended. If the break-up ended so fine and there is unity in the decision made, then there is no reason for the ex-couple to hate each other and reject the friendship offered by chances. Then again, if the separation was brought by so many speculations, misunderstandings, infidelities, and either one or both parties have been affected with the reason not worth it, then, the decision to be casual people with each other is a blameless prejudice.
My answer in the above statement is practically based on my own experiences. From those experience, the key word is FORGIVENESS. When you learn to forgive, then you take risks of opening again so many opportunities that have been blocked by fear. We also have to respect the innervation of each individual. There are also instances wherein, they learned to forgive but choose to be back to strangers with each other. But then, somehow, even before the presence of the intimate relationship, they were also once friends and they started up with being friends. So I say, it won't kill to try again... with friendship.